The Real Friendship Test
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Posted by Girlosophy on Thu 3 November 2011
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We each need one or two close friends who are constant in our lives. They are people to whom we are instinctively drawn when problems seem insurmountable or when we’ve lost faith in ourselves or in humanity. They are the ones who can offer a measured, objective response.
To be the best friend to someone that we can be is a commitment. It requires loyalty and a generosity of spirit as unshakeable as it is untradeable, and which never stoops to pettiness or meanness. A best friend forgives foibles, overlooks shortcomings and accepts, even cherishes, idiosyncrasies.
Changes are welcomed and applauded when appropriate, sympathy is automatic and sincere, crises are attended to without judgment, and the willingness to help in proportion to the ability to do so.
“Friendship requires loyalty and a generosity of spirit as unshakeable as it is untradeable.”
Sometimes being a good friend is about being clear on boundaries too. Knowing when a friend needs to seek professional help for particular problems and then being supportive while they are getting it is important.
We don’t have room in our lives to be best friends to everyone, so it comes down to a chosen few who, once so chosen, are there for the long haul.
Friendships like these are committed relationships and are a reflection of who we are. As such they are deserving of the utmost respect, for they are a part of us. These friendships are sacred.
Photographer: Anthea Paul
